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© Liliane Limpens Insight View 1 december 2017
Right Partner
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| Your fears are right: you won’t find the right partner, because the right partner doesn't really exist. | ||
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Anyone, however lovely they seem at first, will turn out to be maddening, difficult and deeply |
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disappointing in a few – but to you very important – ways. |
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You are carrying the burden of Romanticism and are suffering from it gravely. |
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You have been made sick by the beguiling – but fatally oppressive – fantasy that there’s a specific |
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| person you are meant to be with who will end the longing, who will be your soul-mate, sexual | ||
| companion, [...] and best friend. | ||
| An important factor – behind almost any decent relationship – is the capacity of each partner to | ||
| manage cheerfully on their own. Relationships don’t solve the problem of loneliness for very long. | ||
| Stop looking for a perfect partner and start looking for that far nicer and more enticing prospect: | ||
| a good enough one. Hopefully, the long painful single period hasn’t just been wasted time. | ||
| It’s been a training ground for the true spirit of compromise and gratitude that lasting love demands. | ||
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